My Husband Constantly Interrupts Me. What Should I Do?

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Even if conversations with your spouse are often disrupted by his interjections, it’s still possible to shift this dynamic so that you both have more room to speak and be heard.

“My husband constantly interrupts me. What should I do?”

That’s actually a very common complaint from wives. It’s normal to want to finish your train of thought fully and without interruption.

Here are the three essential steps to deal with this communication style:

  1. Understand your husband’s interruptions from your point of view
  2. Initiate the change by coming to an agreement with your partner
  3. Practice new habit-forming exercises

If you follow these steps, you can help your husband turn this habit around and create a more nurturing relationship. Imagine feeling loved, respected and cherished because your partner listens with his full attention. Imagine the sizzling spark between you two when he treats you like the only woman in the world.

That’s what we teach the women in our premium coaching program The Cherished Wife. In it we show you exactly how to:

  • Talk to your husband so he listens, understands and gets you. 
  • Shut down arguments before they even happen.
  • Be irresistible to your man and make him go crazy over you.
  • Create a deeply intimate connection again with your husband.

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By implementing these three steps, you’ll be creating a stronger foundation for respect and long-term success. Before we dive into step one, let’s take a quick look at why we’re specifically talking about husbands.

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 Who Interrupts Whom?

Did you know that how often one gender interrupts the other actually changes with each decade?
 There were a few studies that suggested that men are more likely to interrupt: 
  • This pioneer study from 1975 found that men are much more likely to interrupt women than other men. 
  • A 2014 study shows that men interrupted 2.1 times over a 3 minute conversation period with women. If they were talking to men it was 1.8 times.

For now, women seek out help the most for this specific problem so we decided to write for them. This article applies to any type of relationship regardless of the gender of their partner.

A note of caution: if your spouse is interrupting you to devalue or hurt you on purpose, this article won’t be appropriate for you. 

Now that we know how this article came about, let’s help you create a healthier conversation dynamic with less interruptions.


 Understand Interruptions From Your Perspective 

‘If only he’d change.‘

 Does that ever cross your mind?

 In relationships we quickly see the problem in the other person. But when we do that, we miss out on taking care of ourselves. We’re too busy thinking about what our spouse should do differently. 

'Don't cut me off!' says the wife to her husband. My Husband Constantly Interrupts Me. What Should I Do?

The truth is, that it isn’t about your spouse. 


It’s about you. 


You want to have good feelings and avoid negative ones. Which is very natural as a human being. You believe that your husband is responsible for the negative feelings so you want him to change. 


But people don’t communicate their feelings. Rather, they say: ‘You always do this. Why don’t you care about me?’


That’s ineffective and often creates the opposite result of what you want. Speaking this way will more likely drive your husband away and make him defensive

In our
The Cherished Wife Program we give you the keys to communicate with your guy in a way that he gets you and listens to you. Gone are the days when you have to repeat yourself ten times and still not get what you want. 

Instead, you’ll get a husband who deeply cares about you and wants to be with you. 

But it’s only possible to create this kind of relationship if you focus on yourself first. Here are some good questions to ask that relate to your specific situation:

  • Why is this difficult for me? 
  • How do I feel when my husband interrupts me? 
  • What do I believe my husband thinks of me when he constantly interrupts me?

Now, it’s about you and what you’re experiencing. Next, ask yourself:

  • How did I feel when my husband did listen to me? (Ex. when you first met)
  • When my husband would listen, how would that make me feel?

Those two questions are honing in on your needs. This step is crucial. 

If the needs of you or your partner are crystal clear then, we recommend reading a more in depth article on how to deal with unmet expectations in marriage

Once you know what’s really happening within you, you’re ready to talk to your husband. If you skip this step, your communication will be less effective because you have no idea what you’re trying to achieve. 

So make sure to spend enough time on those questions. We know it can be uncomfortable to face your feelings. But you totally can do this.

It’s so worth it because it’ll help you clear up your communication with your spouse! Here’s how to approach it…


You’re the creator of your relationship, if you want to change it, it starts with you. Always.- Natasha & Jachym Jerie

Initiate The Change

 You’ve gotten to the bottom of what your needs are. Now you’re ready to talk to him, but how?
First, we need to change the focus from trying to be heard to understanding your husband.


Because we don’t yet understand the reason behind the interruption. Once we do, we have the key to resolve this misunderstanding.

Every behavior we exhibit serves some purpose. For your husband, it makes sense to him to interrupt you. The more we get to know each other’s experience, the more able we are to fix this problem.

But right now, it might feel easiest to jump to a quick conclusion and then complain impulsively at your partner or blame them. But what you’ll achieve with that is more resistance and drama.

Take this example:


Her: ‘You never listen. Don’t you have any manners? You clearly don’t care about me. Can’t you just stop…

Him: ‘It’s not true. I do listen! And I do care about you!

He feels attacked and is defending himself. You won’t get anywhere with this conversation as it might just lead to him starting to ignore you.. Here’s what to do instead:

Her: ‘I’ve noticed that you interrupt me a lot. I was wondering what causes you to jump in?’

Him: ‘I’m scared that I’ll forget what I want to say. So I feel like I have to blurt it out because otherwise, it’ll just leave my brain.’

Her: ‘Ah I see. You know I feel quite hurt when you interrupt so often. I know you care for me, but when you interrupt, it gives me the feeling that you don’t. 

Why does this work?

She’s stating an observation. She’s not criticizing or blaming him. 

She’s curious and trying to understand her husband.

She isn’t trying to force him into how she wants him to be aka coming from a place where her opinion is above her partner’s 

She shares her experience and is vulnerable with her husband, rather than attacking him.

This way of approaching the conversation will improve the communication in your relationship. By genuinely trying to understand where both of you are coming from, you’re injecting more compassion and love in the whole process. This helps you build a stronger bond with more trust with one another and also sets the stage for the next step.

In The Cherished Wife Program we help you mend your relationship and bring it beyond where it once was. Yes, you can have a relationship that’s better than the honeymoon. Yes, you can have a partner who deeply cares for you even if he’s insensitive right now. 


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You either nurture your fears and insecurities or you nurture love and empowerment.- Natasha & Jachym Jerie

Come To An Agreement


The next step is to find an agreement. There’s no point in trying to force your husband. It’ll just drive you apart. Love isn’t about forcing things onto your spouse. It’s about learning to love each other in ways that are empowering for both of you.

I once met a couple who had a very interesting style of communication. Whenever the girlfriend didn’t get what she wanted, she would raise her voice and threaten her boyfriend: “I swear if you do that again, I’ll kill you!” The boyfriend knew that it was just a joke and a manipulative way to get her point across. So he would let her humor him.

But in reality, it is never helpful to try to threaten or push your spouse to do something. It comes across as childish and ultimately ridiculous.

So rather than using manipulation and demands, try to make requests. There’s a great difference: a request is something your spouse can accept or decline.



Her: ‘I really like it when you listen to me. It makes me feel like you care. Could we spend 10 minutes tonight where we can both talk without interruption?

Him: ‘Look, I’m sorry that I can’t help it. I know it’s bad behavior and considered rude, but I just can’t change it.’ 

Her: ‘Yes, some habits are hard to change for me too. But I do think that if we work together on it, it would greatly benefit our relationship. Would you be willing to give this a try? It would mean a lot to me.’

Why does it work?

  • She states what she likes instead of criticizing and belittling her husband.  
  • She states what she feels when he does it.
  • She suggests a specific action to foster what she likes.

When he says he can’t help it: 

  • She acknowledges his doubt.
  • Yet gently persists to face it together. 
  • She asks him to commit by asking if he is willing to try.

Now, we know that some husbands might not be as agreeable. The way you get through to your husband is by being open, honest, and vulnerable. 

When he really sees how his behavior is impacting you, he’ll be motivated to find a solution. No one wants to see the one they love feel hurt. This is why clear, transparent communication of how you really feel matters a lot.

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Once you do have that vulnerable conversation, it’ll be much clearer how much you can actually gain through this new change. Rather than letting him figure it all out, it’s much better if you can provide suggestions for solutions.

An exceptional relationship takes an exceptional commitment.- Natasha & Jachym Jerie

Practice New Habit-Forming Exercises


If you want to have long-term success with this new interruption-free dynamic then you must make a habit out of it. The good news is that habits are doable and we’ve broken it down into two practical exercises.
A habit needs to be broken by becoming conscious of it. You can’t think your way into a new rhythm. It’s something for you and your partner to experience regularly.
Here are two simple approaches to create an interruption-free dynamic:
  • Have a clear specified time to talk with each other, where both will listen.
  • Have a code word or symbol to ensure the other doesn’t interrupt. 
Let’s look at both of these habit changing techniques in more depth.

Be careful not to be too blunt and shut your partner off. Understand that your spouse might have just come to you with something really important to them. If you’re unsure, bring the topic up in a separate conversation.



An extremely effective yet simple way to establish this new behavior is to have intentional conversations where neither partner is allowed to interrupt. That’s been the goal all along. So how do you set yourself up for success?

Here are a few guidelines to structure it:

  1. Set a timer for each person to just talk.
  2. Choose topics that are pleasant and not heated. (you want to make positive associations with time spent listening to each other)
  3. Keep natural eye contact without staring. 
  4. Only interrupt if your partner has lost you and you don’t understand what they’re talking about.

Once you’re done with the exercise, reflect with your partner on how this experience has felt for both of you. If you’d like to make adjustments feel free to do them. It’s all about you and your partner. 

The exercise is here to foster communication. You want it to be pleasant and comfortable. Make sure it’s a safe space for both of you where you can open up without being judged.

We have written another article with more exercises to help you with improving your communication. It will help you gain an even better understanding on this topic plus lots of practical next-steps to take.


Code Word or Symbol

Because your husband has a habit of interrupting, it’s useful to have a way of pointing it out when you’re not having a no-interruption-talk. 
Here are two suggestions you can try:

Code Word

The purpose of a code word is to have an agreed term that’ll help your husband see that he’s interrupting again.
When you’re by yourself, it might be as simple as just raising your hand and saying ‘stop.’ The visual key is to get his attention as he might be too absorbed in his thoughts. 
But if you’re not by yourself, you might want to have something less direct. It’s best to agree on the code word beforehand. For example, you’re out with your friends and your husband starts to interrupt you. You’ve agreed that your code word is cupcake. 
Here’s how you can bring it up, for example:


‘I wonder if we have any cupcakes left at home.’

‘Do you think we can get some cupcakes later?’

You can use whatever word that can easily be worked into a conversation. To make it more obvious, you can look more intently at your husband to see if he got the meaning behind the code word.


When you’re planning to have a conversation that’ll be more heated and he’s likely to interrupt more, use a prop as a symbol. Whoever has the prop has the full attention of the other person. When the prop is passed to your partner, it’s his turn to speak. 
Whatever method you choose to use, please be aware that it takes time. Be patient with your husband. In some cases, he’s grown up with this behavior; it won’t just change overnight. You can help him by staying calm and assertive. Don’t get riled up and go back into blaming him.
There’s no doubt that we’ve all picked up some bad habits here and there. No one’s perfect.

All our little quirks and faults aren’t the enemy here. What hurts a marriage the most is when we aren’t honest with ourselves and our spouses. That built up dishonesty and tension which will eventually blow up and lead to more misunderstandings.

By following the three essential steps that we covered in this article, you can do a great deal for your marriage. Like everything we do, the long-term impacts are the greatest reward:


  1. By trying to understand both you and your husband’s perspectives, you’re building more trust and respect.
  2. By initiating the change and coming to an agreement, you’re proving that you’re able to tackle any issues together.
  3. By practicing the two exercises we provided, you’re committing more to each other.
  4. Apply to secure your spot in The Cherished Wife Program now.

The problem is never the problem. There’s always a way.

So come together, commit and change the dynamic so you can share more precious moments together without interruption.

Understand yourself, understand each other.

Respect yourself, respect each other.


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