Sure, it’s nice to have the husband as your best friend. But is that enough?
What about attraction? The magnetic pull towards each other. That spark when you first met.
A lot of long-term couples lose this attraction over time. Some even see it as inevitable: the relationship becomes stale, predictable and passionless.
We’re here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, how to keep your husband attracted to you isn’t as hard as you might think.
If you apply the tips we’re about to share with you, your passion can be rekindled again.
For us, my fire with Jachym burns stronger than ever. He finds me more and more attractive and I see him as a stronger and more desirable man everyday.
So what’s the secret to becoming irresistible to your husband again? What are some practical steps on how to keep your husband attracted to you?
Keep reading to find out. And no, it won’t be like any of the advice that you’ve heard from your girl friends. Ready to get that passionate attention and desire from your man again? Let’s get started.
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My Husband Is Not Attracted To Me Anymore (8 Reasons)
He used to be so into you, but now he barely notices you. You tried putting on nice clothes for him, but he didn’t even see it. If you’re finding yourself in that space, you’re probably wondering why your husband seems to be a different person now.
Perhaps you’re even asking whether it’s your fault. You’re looking for answers and luckily, we’re here to give you clarity as to what’s really going on. If you’re not sure whether he’s still into you or not, we’ve written out 13 powerful signs your husband isn’t attracted to you anymore.
Why Doesn’t He Find Me Attractive Anymore?
1. Your Appearance Has Changed
When you first start dating, you put a lot of effort into your appearance. You can spend hours in front of the mirror trying to get the perfect make-up on. But as time goes on and you move in, the effort starts to wane. As the years roll by, you put on some weight and get some wrinkles here and there.
It’s normal. But it can impact attraction levels from your husband. Luckily, attraction isn’t purely a physical thing. It’s actually an energetic phenomenon. That’s good news.
Because you can regain the attraction from your husband. We’ve cracked the attraction code and laid it on as a blueprint. Just click here to get it.
A relationship can only mature and become more fulfilling when you stop looking for more pleasure.–Jachym Jerie
2. The Novelty Has Worn Off
Who doesn’t know it?
You meet someone, and at first, you can’t get enough of each other. He’s Mr. Perfect! Everything he touches turns into gold – at least in your mind it does.
But as time goes on, you start to come off from the initial high and so does your husband. You start to see the flaws in each other. Your insecurities start to infiltrate the relationship and before you know it, the beautiful relationship you once had starts to be another battlefield.
All hope isn’t lost though.
Because it’s normal. Most relationships go through these phases. But be wary because many couples don’t make it through. Instead, you stagnate in this place and a power struggle starts to ensue. With it, the attraction goes out the window.
Luckily you don’t have to navigate this difficulty yourself. We’ve created a blueprint for you and we teach it in The Cherished Wife Program.
Don’t just aim to have more intimacy, love, and attraction. You can feel deeply desired, supported and cherished by your husband.
In the Cherished Wife Program, we show you how to create the marriage of your dreams with our proven system. If you learn the right tools and skills, you and your man can regain that spark and so much more.
3. He’s Stressed at Work
Here’s a little secret:
The loss of attraction isn’t just about you. It’s also about your husband. When he’s super busy, he simply doesn’t have the energy to romance you. His mind is too preoccupied with all the problems he’s facing in life.
Here’s another little secret:
He might have low testosterone which – as you might know – is responsible for a higher sex drive. Unfortunately, there’s quite a few men who suffer from this at an early age. Again, this has nothing to do with you.
4. Your Relationship Is Having Difficulties
For attraction to exist, you need to get over the fighting and all the drama in the relationship. It can be a huge turn-off for a man to be in a space where there’s constant conflict. It’ll lead him to start:
- Distancing himself
- Looking for other ways to fulfill his needs
- Resenting you
None of these could bring back the passion and attraction in your marriage.
So if you’re finding yourself:
- Guilt tripping
Then it’s time to shift these patterns. Not sure how your communication is doing in your relationship? Take this free quiz here.
Why Husband Loses Interest In Wife?
You’re not alone. Many wives complain that their husbands aren’t as attracted to them as they used to be. Let’s look at some of the common reasons why husbands lose interest in their wives.
A controlling wife is a lonely wife.– Natasha Koo
1. She’s Become Controlling
You can’t have control and have attraction at the same time. Here’s why:
Your husband doesn’t like to be treated like a child that has to be told what to do. When you step into the role of being his mother, you’re shifting the dynamic in the relationship. Just think back to the times you first met:
Did you mother him or did you let him be your hero and allow him to romance you?
It was the second one and you loved it. But now, you unwittingly took the role of doing all the work for him. You’re probably:
- Doing the housework
- Picking up after him
- Initiating all the fun activities
Where is your husband? Trying to do it all is exhausting, and it turns the romance off very very quickly. But it doesn’t have to stay this way. You can learn what it takes to bring the spark back.
We’ve created three pillars in our The Cherished Wife Program that are designed to do that and more. No more:
- Trying short-term fixes that don’t last
- Putting in all the effort with no result
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2. He Doesn’t Feel Appreciated
Attraction in a long term relationship isn’t an isolated component. It works together with a bunch of other things. This is why the quick fixes usually don’t work!
For starters, there’s the appreciation component. It sets the stage in creating a harmonious, yet passionate relationship. You really don’t need to use fear, manipulation, and ultimatums to make things work in your relationship. They usually have the opposite effect of what you want to have.
Instead, you want to bring back the relationship to love and appreciation. That’s why we’ve dedicated an entire pillar in our Cherished Wife Program called harmonious love. That’s how important it is!
3. He’s Tried to Woo Her and It Didn’t Work
The more your husband tries to romance you and gets shut down, the more he’s going to lose faith in his capabilities. It’s frustrating to try to make your wife happy and have it fail over and over again because some small detail was not to her liking.
It may just make him stop initiating all together. If that’s happened in your relationship, the article “My Husband Doesn’t Initiate Sex- Until You Try This!” will be a great resource for you.
Here’s the thing: attraction isn’t just based on being pursued, it’s also based on your ability to receive. The more open you are to his desire for you, the more he’s going to show it. Does this mean you just have to be satisfied with what he does even if you don’t like it?
Of course not.
What it means is that you have to take some time appreciating what he does while also showing him overtime what really makes you happy. After all, your man is not a mind reader; he really does need you to tell him your desires. Bonus thing is, your guidance will also boost his confidence in his ability to do the things that’ll get you swooning.
4. His Priorities Have Shifted
Attention creates attraction and vice versa..
If your husband’s priorities have shifted, it can manifest in his lack of attraction for you. Does this mean there’s something wrong with you? Nope. It just means that his head is in a different place at the moment.
And no, you don’t have to just accept it and let the relationship deteriorate. In fact, you noticing it first means you’re the guardian of your relationship. Most of the time, there’s one person who takes on that role. You don’t have to be both in it to shift how the relationship is going to go.
Alrighty. Now we’ve covered 8 reasons in total on why your husband isn’t attracted to you anymore. By now, you might be wondering how you can fix it. But before we dive into that, let’s look at why attraction is important in a relationship.
Is Attraction Necessary for Marriage?
Maybe his lack of attraction for you isn’t so bad after all. Maybe your marriage can survive even if your husband isn’t attracted to you.
Well, Natasha and I aren’t big fans of survival. We want you to thrive! Why settle for surviving? That sounds like a slow death to your marriage until you just can’t take it anymore. That’s not very pleasant.
To put it bluntly: Attraction is vital for most marriages.
If you don’t have attraction, you might very well just become roommates. There’s nothing wrong with that but a marriage is something different than just being good friends. If you want your marriage to thrive, you do want to re-establish the attraction!
But that doesn’t mean you have to go back to wanting each other all the time again. Attraction does mature as the relationship deepens.
Attraction is so much more than physical features. It’s energetic.– Natasha and Jachym Jerie
How Important Is Physical Attraction In Marriage?
Physical attraction is an extension of your energetic attraction towards each other. What does this mean?
It means that there’s a lot more to attraction than what the majority of people believe. Attraction between man and woman is at its core an extension of them being in their masculine and feminine essence. It’s this polarity between the two extremes that can manifest itself as physical attraction.
This kind of attraction is vital for a healthy marriage. Without it, you’ll feel depleted. Forget about the physicality of it and focus on the energy that you feel when you’re desired by your man. It makes you feel alive and vibrant, doesn’t it? Well, that’s what you’re missing when attraction isn’t there.
But there’s more…
Effects Of No Attraction In Marriage
Here’s what can happen when you don’t feel desired by your man:
- You start resenting him.
- You consider cheating on him or opening up the marriage.
- You don’t feel rejuvenated
- You feel lonely and undesirable
- You consider divorce
More things that can happen but this is already a big enough list to make you realize that you do want to have attraction in your relationship. But is this true for everyone?
If lack of attraction is no issue for both parties involved, then the marriage can go on without any problems. But you’re reading this article, so you’re probably not one of them.
Can you save a marriage where there’s no attraction happening?
In our The Cherished Wife Program, we help you re-establish the passion in your marriage. We’ve discovered that there are three key components for that to happen:
- You have to relax into your feminine essence
- You need to create a space of love and acceptance
- You need to understand your man and what drives him
Add these three elements together and you get the kind of relationship that the poets are writing about. Head over here to transform your marriage today!
Being loved and cherished the way you want isn’t wishful thinking. It’s based on some fundamental relationships skills and knowledge that can be learned. Take action today if you want to secure a lasting marriage and keep the spark alive.
What To Do If Your Husband Is Not Attracted To You? – Stay In The Game
That’s what many people in forums advise each other. As soon as they hear that a relationship has some difficulty, they think the other person is better off to just quite. We have a very different opinion on this.
Rather than running for the woods, we want you to stay in the game with your husband. Here’s what can help you see things from a different perspective:
1. Know That Attraction Fluctuates
Do you feel happy every single minute of every single day?
Then why would you expect that you and your husband are always attracted to each other with the same intensity? You won’t.
It’s normal that levels of attraction fluctuate. Sometimes attraction does take the backseat, especially when life’s challenges become a bit too much. And yes, this can last for longer than a week as well. Again, that’s normal.
But it doesn’t mean that you don’t do anything about it. We cover how you can be more sexually attractive to your husband later on.
You aren’t fucked up, you just think you are.– Jachym Jerie
2. Don’t Take It Personally
The very first thing women do who feel their husbands aren’t attracted to them anymore is to think that there’s something wrong with them.
They believe that they are:
- Too fat
- Too old
All of these thoughts are centered around you not being good enough. Here’s a little secret:
These thoughts aren’t you. They are thoughts about you.
Just like the drink on the menu isn’t the drink itself, your thoughts about you aren’t you. When your mind tells you that you’re ugly, you are only hearing a story- your mind’s story. Believe me, I had fitness models enter my office telling me that they’re ugly… your mind doesn’t tell you the truth. Don’t believe it!
3. Acknowledge Your Emotions
Look, feeling undesirable sucks.
It’s a lousy feeling. You don’t like it and you want to get rid of it. But underneath that feeling lies more. You don’t want to push your own tender spots away. Instead, you want to embrace them. Allow yourself to feel sad when you feel not attractive enough.
Be with yourself, and you get to witness how these stories and feelings can unravel. When they do, you find yourself back in your beautiful inner self that you’ve always been. It’s from this place that you can create a relationship that’s truly soul nourishing!
With that in mind, let’s see in the next section how you can become more sexually attractive to your husband.
How Can I Be More Sexually Attractive To My Husband? – Change Yourself
Can you increase your sex appeal?
We’re going to show you exactly how you can do that here.
There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who enjoys herself.– Natasha Koo
1. Tap Into Your Joy!
There’s nothing that’s quite as attractive as someone who’s joyful. We love being with people who love life. It’s magnetic and truly irresistible.
On the contrary, we tend to stay away from people who are:
- Blaming themselves or others
These things just aren’t appealing. They give you the impression that you’re going to be in trouble with them real soon as well. It for sure isn’t attractive.
Here’s what happens when you’re tapping into your joy:
- You smile
- You dance
- You make jokes
- You’re playful
- You flirt
These are natural extensions of a joyful state. You’re overflowing with love and happiness and you want to share it. Being joyful beats any quick tip about how to turn your husband on- hands down!
This is the reason why we spend so much time with our ladies in our The Cherished Wife Program to reconnect them to their spontaneous and natural joyful state. It’s from this state of joy that you create a truly mind-blowing relationship!
You can be irresistible to your husband again. Just like how he was attracted to you and drawn to you when you first met. When you learn how to fill your own cup like the women in our Cherished Wife Program, your husband will naturally want to shower you with love and attention.
2. Regain Your Confidence
Confidence is sexy.
Feeling insecure, not really.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t accept and welcome your insecurities. Doing that is actually one of the secrets to confidence. Here’s another little known fact:
You’re naturally confident when you stop believing all the stories your mind tells you. Insecurities do not exist outside of your negative beliefs about yourself. It’s entirely made up by the mind. But sometimes the mind does use past hurt to give us ‘evidence’ for our deficiencies.
That’s why we focus in The Cherished Wife Program on helping you heal these tender spots. When your mind can’t use your past hurt, it loses its power completely. What is revealed then is your inner goddess that naturally shines and radiates sexinness. Do you want to be 10x more attractive to your husband? Head over here to secure your spot now!
3. Celebrate Your Body and Sexuality
As long as you’re not comfortable with yourself, your man will notice it.
The secret to being irresistible is your pleasure. When you love your body with its curves, you exude that to your man. He can feel that you enjoy being sensual. You breathe it and live it. But most women don’t do that. Instead, they’re busy criticizing the body for all its shortcomings.
They also don’t celebrate their sexuality.
Because they feel ashamed. They believe they’ll be labeled as a ‘slut’. You need to let go of these beliefs and embrace your sexuality if you want your man to be attracted to you again . Embrace that you enjoy giving and receiving pleasure.
There’s nothing shameful about pleasure. Enjoy it!– Natasha and Jachym Jerie
The more at home you are with your own erotic nature, the more your man will be drawn to you. And not only that. He’ll keep being attracted to you because you stand out. The vast majority of women aren’t comfortable with this, but you are. He’ll notice, guaranteed.
Now that you know how to become more sexually attracted to your husband, let’s see what you can actively do to inspire him to pursue you like there’s no tomorrow!
How To Make Him Sexually Attracted To You Again?
Do you have to wait for your husband to initiate?
You can set the conditions right for sexual attraction to happen. If this topic has been a sore spot in your relationship, we don’t recommend talking about it. You probably have done this in the past and it’s driven you further apart than gotten you closer. Which is, by the way, a natural occurrence.
Please make sure you’ve read the previous sections as they set the stage within yourself for sexual attraction to come back. If you miss these fundamental steps, then what we’re about to share won’t work.
1. Become His Lover Again
Are you his mother or his lover?
We’ve mentioned before that being his mother is a huge turn-off. Now it’s time to really look at this. If you’re:
- Picking up after him
- Trying to ‘improve’ him
- Telling him what to do
- Finding that your husband always needs your input
Then you might have slipped into the role of being his mother. We suggest that you quit all of it. Instead, you want to ask for his help. And you want to use the new found time to go and enjoy yourself (remember the part about tapping into your joy? This is part of it!). Let go of trying to control him!
When you’re at your best, you’re much more likely to be flirtatious with him and simply have fun. This will make him more attracted to you!
Attraction is natural when you’re having fun and it goes out the window when you become too serious.– Natasha Koo
2. Create a Space of Love and Trust
Chances are that you’ve fallen into the trap of trying to get things done your way. But this doesn’t create a space of love and trust. It creates a space where he has to defend himself so that he can get things his way!
Before you know it, both of you are trying to get something from each other rather than trying to be of service to each other! The more you take on an attitude of service towards your husband, the more you’re creating a relationship that’s aligned towards love.
It’s in this kind of space and connection that love and attraction can flow freely. It can’t do that when you have a relationship that’s filled with fears and insecurities.
3. Tap Into His Primal Desire
Men desire women.
They’re designed to do that. And you can activate his desire for you. We’ve cracked the code to create and sustain attraction in long-term relationships. You’ve found a lot of pieces here on this post, but there’s more.
Here’s another piece:
He needs to feel respected.
Because men thrive on respect. And respect for him means that you acknowledge and treat him as a capable and powerful man. Your actions speak louder than words. If you think that he’ll screw up without your advice, you’re not acknowledging him as that. You’re actually seeing him as incapable.
It’s by showing him respect that you can find the primal trigger to re-spark the attraction again. But it requires you to become vulnerable, open, and receptive to him.
4. Create Space Between Each Other
A person with a masculine essence is naturally drawn to someone with a feminine essence. But most long-term relationships become depolarized:
- Both parties want to be agreeable with each other rather than celebrating their differences.
- They spend so much time together that they don’t have time to recharge themselves in activities that are suitable for their essence.
- They look for security in their partner when in reality there’s none. Doing this leads them to put them into a box of ‘I understand you’.
All of these three points lead to depolarization and a lack of attraction. You do need to spend time apart so that you can keep unfolding and exploring yourself without your partner. You’re still an independent human being!
Give each other space to breath. When you come back together, you’ll be refreshed and ready to be fully present with each other.
5. Learn to Be Seductive
If you’ve read all the other points, this one might come quite naturally. After all, ‘learning to be seductive’ really means to tap into the natural expression of your desires. But there’s another component to it:
Being responsive to your man.
Yes, you can express yourself and celebrate your sexiness. But you also want to play with your man. You want to build up the tension between you rather than just consuming it. This is something that needs some time to explore.
Here are some questions:
- What does he respond to well?
- When does he find you really sexy?
- What are gestures, touches, and looks that pull him in?
You don’t need to be able to answer these questions now. You rather want to be like a scientist and play around with him. See what gets him going. But rather than just allowing him to go for his desire then and there, you want to let him wait.
Because it builds up the tension. You’re not doing this because you’re trying to get something out of him or because you need to manipulate him. No, you’re teasing him and showing both of you how much more enjoyable it is to be together when you’re just on the edge of getting what you want, but not quite.
Doing this requires you to be observant of your man and enjoy the game of being chased and at the same time seducing him.
A Cherished Wife can only become cherished when she allows herself to receive.– Jachym Jerie
Deep down, we all want to be desired.
There’s no better feeling than activating that passion in your man. It makes you feel sexy, strong and like the only woman he wants in the world.
When you have this powerful dynamic back in your relationship, you feel like you’re chosen and special again and again.
Keeping the attraction between you and your husband isn’t just about intimacy. It’s a fire that you tend and nurture so that you come alive together. It invigorates and satisfies both of you as you deepen your connection.
If you want this beautiful transformation in your marriage, then there are some changes to be made.
Even if you doubt that you’ll ever get him attracted to you again, there is hope and a way. Instead of giving up or comparing yourself to other couples, apply the steps we’ve outlined here in this article.
We get it, trying to get the attraction back can be scary. It might have already made you feel insecure about yourself and the relationship.
Stop second-guessing what you should do next. Stop wondering what works and what doesn’t. Stop getting discouraged by all the tactics that haven’t worked for you and your husband.
With our proven system, we can show you how to bring the passion back step-by-step.
Remember, there’s nothing wrong with you. You’ve just been misguided.
With the right tools and knowledge, you can turn it all around and have the marriage of your dreams.
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