If only he’d care more.
You can’t keep track of the times you’ve been let down by your man.
At times you feel like you might’ve made the wrong decision committing your whole life to someone who can’t even make you feel loved.
In other moments, you can’t help but blame yourself, wondering, ‘How do I stop craving for affection from my husband?’
He used to tell you stories of the promising future that he wants to spend with you. But now you’re left in the disappointment of living with a roommate and not a lover.
You can’t take it anymore. You’re tired of begging. You can’t get affection from him and so you’re thinking if you should leave or not.
It’s okay if you feel that way.
But don’t get stuck sulking in that space and giving up on your dream marriage. Most couples suffer for years before getting help.
What can you do instead?
Learn how to get your husband’s affection back with these fail-proof marriage-saving tips and keep reading this article to find out the ways you can stop craving for his affection
You can’t get his affection back if you’re too preoccupied with craving for your man’s affection. Keep reading to find out why.
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Is It Normal To Crave Physical Affection From Your Spouse?
If you are not getting any physical affection, it’s very normal to desire it.
Physical affection is vital for a healthy human being. As previous experiments have shown in the book “The Power of Touch” by Phyllis K. Davis, infants deprived of any touch and speech simply died, despite having all their physical needs met.
As adults, physical touch still remains important. As neuroscientist David Linden says in this interview:
“We know that doctors who touch their patients appropriately — and I will elaborate that we’re not just talking about the touch that’s mandated by a physical exam, we’re talking about a friendly hand on the shoulder or the elbow sort of touch — their patients have better medical outcomes, reduced stress hormone levels and rate their doctors as more caring when there is some touch.”
As you can see, physical touch really is vital for us human beings. Therefore craving it is a normal response to a lack of physical touch.
We’re here to serve each other, not to take from each other.– Natasha and Jachym Jerie
Why Do I Crave Affection So Much?
Why do you get hungry?
Because you need food.
Why do you crave affection?
Because you need it.
The only time this question needs to be looked at in more detail is when you are getting a lot of affection, and yet you still crave it. That’s like getting enough food but never being satisfied. If that’s the case, there might be other causes than simply being deprived of affection.
Rather than thinking why you’re craving affection, ask yourself this:
How can I fulfill this need of mine?
That way, you’re listening to your body rather than denying it a need it has.
If you’re still wondering about whether you’re not getting enough affection or not, you can simply head over this article and read more about the 5 signs that you are starved for affection from your husband. It’ll help ease that lingering doubts you might have.
How To Stop Craving Affection From My Husband?
Can you stop craving affection?
Yes. But not by suppressing it.
You can stop wanting affection by finding ways to fulfill your needs. We’ve written an in-depth article about how to get your husband’s affection back. But here are some useful tips when your husband simply isn’t in the right place to give you the affection that you crave.
Please be aware that these are short-term solutions and that you do want to address the issue of not getting enough affection from your husband in your relationship. Avoiding the topic will only put your relationship on a downward spiral.
You deserve and can get all the affection you need from your husband! In our coaching work, we focus on helping women set the right foundations for their relationship so that issues like:
- Lack of passion
- Lack of affection
- Lack of attention
Don’t become an issue anymore.
Because they’ve set themselves up for success by doing the groundwork. Without this solid foundation, all the quick tips simply don’t work for a long-term solution.
But there are periods where quick tips can help you bridge the gap until you’re able to address the issues at hand.
Cravings are trying to communicate something to you; listen!– Natasha and Jachym Jerie
Spend Quality Time With Friends And Family
You can get a lot of your needs met by being with the people you love. These heartfelt interactions can truly nourish your soul. But this doesn’t include chatting over WhatsApp or Facebook. We mean in-person meetings where you genuinely are together.
Affection doesn’t always have to be physical; it can also be shown through other gestures like how people listen to you, look at you, and treat you.
Get a Massage
If your husband is preoccupied, you can get some of your physical affection needs met by getting a good massage once a week. It can help you relax and enjoy the time where you have someone who’ll massage you just in the way you like it.
We recommend a massage over another service like professional cuddling, as the massage is socially accepted. But as we’ve mentioned before, this is just a band-aid solution.
Touching yourself can be a great way to give yourself some love and affection. You’d be amazed by how much you can learn about yourself by giving yourself this kind of gift. It can feel a bit strange at first because you’re not used to it.
Sometimes this kind of gentle self-touching can also reveal how you treat yourself harshly most of the time, which is even more reason to do it.
Offer Free Hugs
You’re not the only one who’s touch-deprived. Many people in the western world, especially America, are as well.
You can make a stance against this touch deprivation by offering free hugs to people on the street. I’ve done it myself in the past, and I was surprised how many people were happy to get a free hug. It led to some lovely encounters with strangers.
Finding the love and intimacy you’ve been longing for begins with you.
Love is beautiful and you deserve it in its purest form. But you can’t get it’s true essence if you don’t love yourself.
It might sound counterintuitive but you have to meet your own needs first. You can’t put all the pressure on him to be responsible for every ounce of your happiness.
Here’s the thing:
Affection is energetic in its core. When you stop craving for his affection, that’s when you truly allow yourself to be in its whole state.
And being your whole happy self, loving yourself from within, is what makes an effortlessly healthy and intimate relationship with him.
Because when you love yourself, you radiate this irresistible aura that’ll magnetize him towards you. It’s when you cherish yourself, that you start feeling like the luckiest woman in the world.
In our The Cherished Wife Program, we teach women how to transform themselves into an irresistible wife. One where begging for his affection would be totally out of the picture because you have the proven strategies to draw him back to you.
Head over here to find out how you can reignite the romance in your marriage.
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