Am I Starving For Attention From My Husband? (5 Definitive Signs)

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‘Am I just feeling paranoid?’

‘Am I asking for too much?’

You might find yourself stuck with these questions in your head. You’re not sure whether you’re overreacting or if your worries are valid. 

Before we dive into the tell-tale signs that you’re starving for attention from your husband, let us remind you of one thing:

We, humans, are hard-wired to need physical affection and attention- it’s science.

Asking for his attention is perfectly normal and is something that you deserve as his wife. Stop begging for his attention and start making the change today with this marriage-saving guide on how you can get your husband to pay more attention to you.

It’s actually possible!

Imagine your husband having only eyes for you. You’re finally the center of his universe again. 

Imagine him showering you with affection because he wants to and chooses to, not because you ask for it.

Stop the thought of ‘I am starving for attention from my husband’ from keeping you up late at night. Get the clarity that you need by learning the key signs that show you need more attention from him. 

You have the power to change your relationship for the better. You can bring your relationship to a whole new level of love and passion by becoming a cherished wife today. Keep reading to find out how.

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5 Clear Signs You Need More Attention from Your Husband

Sometimes it’s hard to know what we’re really missing. Do you need more attention or maybe it’s something else? 

Here are five clear signs that can help you with just that.

1. You’re Jealous of His Work or Buddies


He’s spending his time and attention on other things, just not you. Oddly enough, this can lead to feeling jealous. 

It’s not the same kind of jealousy as you’d have if another woman would be involved. But it really drives you crazy to think that he has so many other priorities before he finally spends some time with you. 

This kind of jealousy may seem irrational, but it makes sense if you’re out of touch with your feelings and you don’t realize how much you want him to spend more time with you. 

2. You’re Willing to Let Your Boundaries Be Crossed


Being starved for anything can make us do crazy things.

You allow him to do whatever he wants with the hopes that he’ll come to his senses and see your worth. But before you know it, he has crossed your boundaries in countless ways and you let it happen.

By the way, this kind of behavior can also be an indication of strong codependency. The result is the same: you feel hurt and neglected.

A Cherished Wife knows how to say no with love.Natasha Koo

3. You Use Conflict to Get More Attention


Feeling deprived of attention, you may resort to creating all sorts of conflict just so he pays more attention to you again. This kind of behavior leads to more hurt and, in the long run, pushes him away. 

At the moment, you don’t know how to get his attention in other ways, but rest assured there are more healthy behaviors that will lead to the desired result. After all, getting negative attention isn’t a substitute for a loving connection with your husband. 

4. You Feel Lonely in Your Marriage


Feeling lonely in your marriage can be a sign that you need more attention, but it can also be a sign that your points of contact are very superficial.

It’s not enough to just be in the same room with each other; you do need to be fully present.

Rather than looking for more time, you can look for better quality. Learn how you can get his undivided attention by knowing the fail-proof ways on how to deal with an absent-minded husband. 

5. You Fantasize About the Past When He Had Only Eyes for You


What do we do when we’re deprived of something? 

We fantasize. 

It’s our way of trying to meet the need by creating it in our heads. Pay attention to all the things your mind does. It can be a valuable clue to whether you’re getting your needs met or not. 

It’s normal that your husband is less preoccupied with you. But it could make your relationship dysfunctional if he’d be in that state forever. But just because he isn’t thinking of you 24/7 doesn’t mean he stopped loving or caring for you. It just means that your relationship has entered a new phase. 

Do You Want Too Much Attention from Your Husband?

How much is enough and is there too much?

Yes, there is.

Some people crave attention because they’re trying to get validation. They feel this emptiness inside of them and believe that getting more attention will fill the void.

It won’t.

It’ll make it worse every time you don’t get the attention.

Can you be by yourself without anyone or anything distracting you?

If not, you might be better off not looking for more attention but instead looking at what’s causing it. We covered that in the article how to get your husband’s attention back.

Have You Become Too Dependent on Your Husband?


It can be exhausting for your partner to give you the attention you want all the time. It can be a real strain on the relationship and do the opposite of what you want: push him further away.

Relationships are beautiful, and they can be an important factor in overcoming challenging times. But if your marriage becomes the only source of support, you might have become too dependent on your husband. 

But just because you’ve slipped into being too dependent on your spouse doesn’t mean all hope is lost.

When you stop seeking love outside of yourself, you see how abundant it really is.Jachym Jerie

Paying Attention to Yourself

It happens to all of us…

We look at what’s missing. 

We believe our partner needs to fix it. 

But here’s a little secret.

While you’re busy focusing on what’s missing, you’re the one who starts neglecting yourself. You’re too lost in your thoughts about what you need and how your man should be that you don’t properly acknowledge how you’re feeling. 

Instead of looking at what your husband should do, start giving yourself what you want from him. 

Pay attention to all of you. Love your tenderspots. Embrace the parts about yourself you hate. Doing this will lead to better results than trying to get the attention from him. 

The funny thing is that when you start to fully accept yourself, you crave less for his attention and you’ll get more of it.

Craving for his attention is like dreaming of going back to where it all started. You just want to go back in time to when you first met. Back when he would set aside whatever he’s doing just so he wouldn’t keep you waiting.

You want to bring back the feeling of having his undivided attention. Of him constantly seeking out your company because he couldn’t get enough of you.

You long to see his words matching his actions. 

You want to see the man who once gave up his time and efforts to fight for you.

All this might seem like a distant dream but let us tell you a secret:

It’s not entirely impossible for you to have that honeymoon phase once again. Losing his attention doesn’t mean that it’s the end, that the love is no longer there. You just need to ignite that dormant fire in his heart. 

'Your wake-up call' a wife tells herself as she gets clarity as to whether she is starving for her husband's attention or not. Am I Starving For Attention From My Husband? (5 Definitive Signs)

But you can’t have his attention if you don’t start paying attention to yourself. You have that magnetic pull within you that’ll certainly pull him back to you. You just don’t know how to exactly tap on that hidden power of yours. And that’s what we help the women we work with to unleash. 

In our The Cherished Wife Program, we show women like you a step-by-step guide on how you can unleash the goddess within you, a version of you that he’ll surely find irresistible. Want that for yourself? Simply head over here to secure your spot. 

Stop wondering where his love and attention have gone. Start living a marriage that you truly deserve. 

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