Are you tired of the same conversations?
When a relationship becomes routine, it’s hard to think of new and exciting things to say to one another. Want fresh and meaningful topics to talk with your husband about? We have the ultimate list of subjects that will bring you closer together.
Say goodbye to boring exchanges and say hello to new-found connection, intimacy and understanding. Find out the top eight conversation topics that will spark more fun and respect in your relationship. Ready to find out what they are? Read on to discover what topics to talk about with your husband that can deepen and strengthen your marriage today.
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1st Topic to Talk About With Your Husband: The Past
Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.– Søren Kierkegaard
What we experience in life can shape how we view new situations. You can learn a lot about your husband’s world views by exploring his past experiences. Even within this one topic, we broke it down into a diverse list:
- What did he experience as a child?
- What are some things he loved to do?
- Who did he think he’d become when he grows up?
Do you see how these questions are quite broad? You can further drill down and make it a lot more specific. For example: What was your favorite food as a kid?
- Who was your first love?
- What did you love and hate about being a teenager?
- If you could relive a moment of your teenage years, which moment would you choose?
When we hit puberty, our bodies go through massive changes. For most people this time period can be quite challenging. You can get an insight about how your husband dealt with these issues and what he learned from them.
3. Previous Relationships
- What did you learn about yourself from these relationships?
- What would you do differently if you could go back and relive one of these relationships?
- What attracted you to these women?
If you don’t like to hear about other people your husband has dated, feel free to skip this one. But if you like to explore this, then have fun. You can get an inside look into how previous relationships have shaped your husband.
4. Your Shared Past
It’s no small feat for you to be together with your spouse. One of the most heart-warming things you can do is to remember moments that you have shared together. You can discover:
- How you two met
- What he loved about you
- Why he chose to be with you
- What his favorite moments were with you
- And a lot more.
This topic can brighten your day and bring back amazing memories. Dive into these to reconnect to why you’re even together as a couple. It’s a wonderful opportunity to feel the gratitude and appreciation that you have for one another.
2nd Topic to Talk About With Your Husband: The Future
You’re building a life together. Where are things going and what do you dream to do together? This topic is worthwhile to explore because it can bring you two onto the same page and align you with a shared future vision.
You’re the creator of your relationship, if you want to change it, it starts with you. Always.- Natasha & Jachym Jerie
When you’ve fallen into a routine together, this topic can help you step out of it. Even if you don’t talk to your husband about the future, it’s important to consider it for yourself as well.
- What kind of relationship do we want to build?
- What kind of adventures do we want to experience?
- What does our ideal life look like?
This topic is all about dreaming together. It’s not about being realistic. Take this opportunity to dream big and uncensored. If something strikes a chord for both of you, you can look into how you can make it happen.
You really can create the relationship and life of your dreams. The ones who are crazy enough to dream it up and create it are the ones who get to live the deeply fulfilling and exceptional life.
Imagine opening your eyes one day and everything has fallen into place. You get so much satisfaction out of your work and you know deep-down that you’re meant to make this positive impact on the world.
You can’t believe how blessed you are to have an amazing husband who deeply cares for you and cherishes you like you’re the most important and beautiful person alive.
Each day, you fall into your bed with an overwhelming gratitude for a life that you never thought was possible.
This can be your reality if you take the questions of this and the next section seriously. How do we know? We went through the same process as you.
Jachym and I were only able to create an incredible nomadic lifestyle because we dreamed big and took the steps to make it a reality. We are now travelling and working together because we talked about the type of life that we want.
Anything is possible for you. As long as you get clarity on what it is that you want, you can create your vision into reality. So what is it that you envision for your relationship? Read on to find out how to get more clarity.
3rd Topic to Talk About With Your Husband: Your Relationship
- How are you feeling about our relationship?
- How am I as a wife to you?
- What things would you like to change in our relationship?
These are just a few questions you can ask. Want to dive even deeper with your spouse? We have broken this topic down into seven categories.
Like any interaction, these topics can bring up differences and become a source of conflict within the relationship. If that’s the case, you can skip those areas for now. If you do want to approach sensitive topics regarding your marriage with your partner, make sure that you’re only trying to understand your spouse and their views by using non-defensive communication.
1. Sex Life
You either nurture your fears and insecurities or you nurture love and empowerment.- Natasha & Jachym Jerie
It doesn’t matter how you’ve been raised. If you’re being intimate with your husband, you have to talk about it. You can only really fulfill each other’s desires when you know what they are. Maybe there are things you or your husband don’t like. If you don’t know them, you can’t change them.
If you’re feeling uncomfortable talking about sex, that’s more reason to talk about it more often. Make it a normal topic in your relationship until both of you can freely express yourself about this topic.
Communication is effective as long as the channel between you and your partner is open. Your relationship depends on honest conversation. It’s not worth keeping quiet and being dissatisfied when talking about it can resolve the issues you might be facing.
2. The Home
You’re probably sharing a home together. Which means there’s plenty of space for conflict to arise. How you and your husband live can be quite different. Natasha loves a clean home, while I don’t really care about it. These differences need to be talked about and you’ll have to find a way to live together in a way that honors both of you.
By talking about this topic, you’re showing care towards each other. Hearing your husband’s perspective on your home life like whether he’s happy with it or not is crucial for finding harmony in the space that you share.
3. Time Spent Together
You and your partner want to spend your life together. But how much time does that actually mean?
We know that this area in a relationship can be compromised. You’re living a full life and before you know it, your schedule is full with other activities. By actively discussing this topic, you can find out:
- What your husband likes to do
- How he likes to spend time with you
- What he doesn’t like to do
Please go beyond the surface answers of his preferences and explore more deeply why he really likes or dislikes something. Why? These topics aren’t here so you have something to talk about. In fact, all the topics we’re offering you is a window to understand your spouse and to deepen your connection.
Imagine being able to see a glimpse of your partner’s world. Imagine valuing your differences because that’s what makes each of you so special. That’s the power of these conversation starters and topics.
An exceptional relationship takes an exceptional commitment.- Natasha & Jachym Jerie
4. Feelings About The Relationship
Emotions can be a useful navigator for getting your marriage back on track. Being vulnerable and opening up your feelings might be scary, but isn’t that why you’re together? So you can reveal your deepest thoughts and feelings to the one person in the world who you love the most?
That’s why opening up the conversation about how you feel about the relationship can be a game-changer.
For example, is your husband feeling valued, respected, heard, understood, and appreciated? Does he feel like this relationship is making him a better man? Is he feeling stronger through having such a wonderful woman like you at his side?
It’s important to ask these kinds of questions as they can reveal any patterns in the relationship that aren’t serving your husband or you.
If you don’t have kids and never want them, this topic isn’t relevant. However, if you do have kids or you do want them then this topic can provide a lot of clarity and understanding. You can explore how you want to raise the kids, what kind of values you’d like to pass on, why you want to have kids and more.
If you find yourself getting trapped into mundane organizational talks, see if you can dive a bit deeper. These questions could include:
- How do you feel when you look at your kids?
- What makes you most proud about them?
- Are you glad we have them? (explain your answer)
6. Friends And Family
No relationship exists in a vacuum.- Jachym Jerie
You have in-laws and friends you regularly meet. These encounters can impact your relationship. That’s why it’s important to discuss how your relationship is affected by those people. Your relationship comes first, other people come second. If you don’t prioritize your relationship, you’ll find yourself torn and compromising your marriage.
We aren’t recommending gossiping about friends and family. The angle to explore here can include people who you are grateful for in your life or problematic social dynamics that you or your husband can resolve together.
Just like how friends and family can influence the relationship, so can work. You want to ensure you know what your husband is experiencing at work so that you can support him when he’s having a tougher time. If your husband loves his work, it can be a wonderful way into his world. For example, you can explore why he enjoys it so much.
Do you see how all these seven areas play crucial roles into your relationship? Make sure to regularly speak about each topic so that you get a better understanding of what your partner is experiencing. It’s not only important for the relationship but it’s also vital to further understand your partner.
4th Topic to Talk About With Your Husband: His Dreams and Aspirations
All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.- Walt Disney
The second topic was about your shared future. Now this topic is all about him.
- What does he want in life?
- What are his ambitions?
- Why are these things important to him?
- What does he believe he’ll gain by achieving them?
Why are these things important to talk about?
It’ll help you support your husband to achieve his ambitions. We believe that entering an Exceptional Relationship means to enter a union with someone else. You’re effectively giving up on living a life that’s entirely centered around your wants and needs. Instead, you’re giving yourself to your spouse. Together you form a new unit that includes both of you with your own uniqueness.
As this new unit, it’s vital that both of you have each other’s best interest in mind. You want your husband to succeed beyond his wildest dreams and he wants the same for you.
In an Exceptional Relationship you start living a life of service towards each other. By exploring your husband’s dreams, desires, and aspirations, you’re becoming knowledgeable about what’s important to him and how you can support him. It’s hard to be there for another person when you don’t know what they’re going through or what they need. So dive into this topic of his hopes and dreams so you can bring out the best in each other.
5th Topic to Talk About With Your Husband: His Biggest Fears
What happens when people open their hearts?
They get better.
– Haruki Murakami
Before we dive into this topic, let’s make sure we’re on the same page:
You’re not responsible for handling your husband’s emotions. You’re not responsible for making his fears go away. You’re not here to protect him and reassure him. If you take on this role, you’ll soon find yourself mothering him rather than empowering him as a man.
So what’s this topic really about? There are subjects, like your partner’s deepest fears, that can greatly impede your relationship. For example, your man can get trapped into believing that he always has to be strong.
We have fears and get scared. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, nor is it something we have to hide. To allow your husband to express his fears is the deepest form of love and acceptance. You’re creating an environment where he can be and express himself to you as he is.
This can help you become more emotionally intimate and accepting of each other. If you want an Exceptional Relationship, there’s no room for keeping up false images. Complete trust and honesty is a prerequisite.
People are putting on a mask in all kinds of situations, let’s have our relationship with each other be the one where we don’t pretend. Utilizing the topics we have in this article is a great starting point for creating a relationship where you feel free to be your authentic self.
6th Topic to Talk About With Your Husband: Inspiration
- What inspires your husband?
- What makes him feel fully alive?
- Who were or are his role models and why?
This topic is closely related to his aspirations. However, sometimes we can have aspirations that are heavily influenced by what we think we have to be. Inspiration, on the other hand, is emotional. When you’re inspired, you feel it in your body. It propels your forward. You don’t have to make yourself do something if you’re inspired.
If your partner isn’t feeling inspired, that’s okay. You can shift the conversation to past inspirations. Just bringing up the topic can help your spouse become more curious about what’s really important to him. It’s time to get curious and excited about what life can bring together!
7th Topic to Talk About With Your Husband: His Values
It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.- Roy Disney
What does your husband value? This may seem like a trivial question but it can become a deep exploration. We often have competing values. When that happens, what we say we value might not correspond with our actions.
When you explore what he values, you can ask him:
- How do you bring this value into your life?
- How do you know that this is so important to you?
These questions can be interesting to explore and can open a vast array of topics that you can talk about further together. They gently challenge your partner to explain what he values and prioritizes.
8th Topic to Talk About With Your Husband: Thought Experiments
The last seven topics give you a deep dive into your husband’s world. This last one is more playful. The questions follow this format:
If you… what would you choose or do?
You can fill in the gaps by being creative. Here are a few ideas:
If you could change your life story, how would you rewrite it?
If you could travel to any century, which one would you choose and why?
If you could travel into the future, how far would you go and what would you see?
If you could write our future together, what would it look like?
If you could meet any famous person in the world, dead or alive, who would you meet and why?
The topics are endless. The only limit is your own imagination. Want to know how to create an endless supply of conversation topics that strengthen and deepen your relationship? Read on to find out how.
The Secret to Never Run Out of Things to Talk About With Your Husband
Now that we’ve covered all these different topics, how can you ensure that you’ll never run out of things to talk about? First things first, let’s find out why this is an issue in the first place. Consider this:
Do you know that it’s okay to not talk?
Do you know that conscious silence can do more for a relationship than talking?
When we’re obsessed with needing to talk, the conversation becomes forced. It can become an issue, not because it’s causing your relationship problems, but because you think something is wrong. If you find yourself in that space, see if you can listen to the stillness between you and your husband.
Now that we know that constant talking doesn’t necessarily guarantee better connection, let’s find out the secret to long-term understanding and communication.
What is it?
It’s that simple. If you stay curious in your life and about your partner, you’ll never run out of things to talk about. The reason why we stop talking is because we believe that we know our partner.
But the truth is that we don’t. What you know is your thoughts about your partner.
Your partner and your thoughts about him are not the same thing.- Jachym Jerie
Curiosity can help you break free from believing that you know. In a way, all the topics we’ve provided are a starting point to connect with your spouse.
Instead of feeling bored and in a rut, truly share your world with one another through conversation or non-verbal communication. Become curious and unafraid to dive into even the more vulnerable topics, like how to approach emotional topics or how to get your needs met.
Because you’re here to share a lifetime. Don’t hold back and try to hide what feels uncomfortable or new. Create meaningful conversations that lead you to the life and relationship of your dreams.
At the end of the day, each of us just want to feel seen, heard and understood. Get started with these 77 romantic questions to rekindle your love and communication with your spouse.
You now have all the resources that you need to turn a silent marriage into one that’s more nourishing and fulfilling.
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