When was the last time you actually spent some time with your partner?
And no… Those weeknights spent on your phone next to each other don’t count.
These days, it’s easy for us to get too busy with work and everything else except for one thing: spending quality time with our partner or having date nights.
It’s easy for both of you to squeeze more work into your schedule but you find it hard to prioritize your marriage.
It might sound like no big deal, but it could be a sign that you’re both taking your marriage for granted.
Why is this something that you shouldn’t ignore?
Because seeing each other every day and living under the same roof isn’t enough.
When you don’t prioritize your relationship and make time for each other, you’ll eventually become roommates. There’ll be no spark, romance or intimacy between you.
That’s why date nights in marriage are like fuel to a car. You can’t make it work with the absence of the other. It keeps the attraction and love alive.
Luckily, we have the perfect list of date night ideas for married couples for you.
So get your pen and paper ready and let’s plan some date nights that’ll rekindle your spark. You and your partner are about to create some special moments that’ll stay in your memories forever!
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How Important Is Date Night For Married Couples?
Just like when you’re still starting out as lovers, having date nights play a critical role in establishing a solid foundation for your marriage.
Let’s take a look at some of the key importance of having date nights along with some of its benefits in the following sections.
Why Date Night Is Critical To My Marriage?
When was the last time you actually spent some time with your partner?
These days, it’s easy for us to get too busy with work and almost everything except for one thing: spending quality time with our partner or having date nights. It’s easy for both of you to get things done and squeeze more work into your schedule but you find it hard to prioritize your marriage above those things.
And that could be the start of you taking your marriage for granted.
Date night for married couples is vital. It keeps the connection between you and your husband alive. It’s one of the unique ways of making each other feel special and desired.
Taking a significant chunk of your time for a date night signifies that you value each other, that you’re willing to make an effort just to be with them.
Relationships need time and effort for it to flourish. It’s when we start neglecting it that the negative feelings start to arise. It’s from lack of time to connect with one another that you start to feel taken granted for and unappreciated.
Still unconvinced on how important date nights are for married couples? Keep on reading to learn more about the benefits of having one. It’s crucial advice that can make your marriage stronger.
To create an Exceptional Relationship, it takes an exceptional commitment.– Natasha and Jachym Jerie
Benefits of Date Nights For Married Couples
You know the importance of date nights in keeping your marriage together but what exactly are the benefits of having one?
1. It’s An Opportunity To Communicate
Communication is one of the pillars of a happy and long-lasting relationship. It keeps you connected with each other.
But in a busy world, your usual conversation revolves around asking what to eat, checking on if the bills are already settled, or even bickering and nagging.
You might say that it’s enough but it’s not really a healthy interaction that can nourish your relationship.
But how can you make time to really sit down and talk with him with all the chaos in life?
That’s where date night comes in. It’s through date nights that you actually have the opportunity to communicate and really connect with your partner. It sets up the space where you can talk about the things that matter.
2. It Builds A Divorce-Proof Marriage
This one is what almost every single wife out there would definitely want to have.
Building a divorce-proof marriage comes hand-in-hand with spending time to connect and communicate with each other.
And it’s pretty obvious why many relationships end up in divorce- not spending time to have a meaningful connection with one another.
Fostering that meaningful connection with your spouse is one of the benefits of having date nights. It’s during those nights that you get to rekindle that spark you had when you first met each other.
It’s during those nights that you get to work on strengthening your relationship.
That’s not all.
Having date nights makes your relationship thrive over the long haul as it strengthens both of your sense of commitment with each other. Having a strong sense of commitment guarantees a resolve to stay not just during the good times, but more importantly, during the bad times.
3. It Keeps The Spark Alive
You feel the rush of emotions and excitement when you two were just starting out. But now, your relationship feels dull. Feeling that passion and desire once again could feel like an impossible dream.
But you don’t have to settle for a zombie marriage. It’s there but it’s not really alive. It’s merely surviving and not thriving.
Luckily, you can easily get back that lost intimacy. Energize your relationship.
Want to know how you can do that?
The answer is by having date nights. Date nights help married couples remember the very reason why they fell in love- the reason why they decided to spend the rest of their lives together.
Rekindling those feelings backs lights the fire for your intimacy. Investing time to spend together each week makes you feel a lot closer to him and vice versa. It’s this sense of being closer together that he’ll start to find you more attractive and irresistible than before.
You can naturally become irresistible to your husband even without his effort. Download our FREE Irresistible Wife Blueprint here to find out the three keys that’ll take you back to the honeymoon phase.
Date nights are a celebration of your special connection with your partner!– Natasha Koo
How Often Should A Married Couple Have A Date Night?
There’s an interesting study on the frequency of date nights necessary for a successful marriage. In a 10-year long observation, it turns out that couples who had date nights once a month are 14% less likely to break up.
Apparently, weekly dates don’t increase the chance of having a successful marriage because planning date nights every week is too exhausting and expensive for many couples.
Phew! What a relief right?
Date nights don’t have to be fancy and expensive at all. In fact, you can have date nights at the comfort of your home or even with a single penny in your pocket.
We believe that there’s no magic number for date nights. You can have it whenever you can, even on your busy days..
We know what you’re thinking: you have more than enough on your plate. The last thing you need is spending precious researching, planning and preparing for complicated date nights.
That’s why we’ve compiled a list of the best date night ideas for married couples that you can use straight-away. Hassle-free and low-effort ideas that can still give you and your man some romantic quality time.
Ready to have more fun together?
Let’s get started.
Ideas For Date Night At Home With Husband
I have a confession to make.
I know that marriage needs regular date nights but a lot of times, I just don’t feel like going out. I feel exhausted from hours of work that I just want to relax and not have the pressure of planning a date night.
Luckily, we’ve created a list of fun and romantic activities that you can do together at home. Get ready for a laid back night of deep connection and laughter with these date night ideas for married couples.
Campout In The Backyard
Stars are out and the weather is pretty nice. Why not take advantage of those?
Set up a tent in your backyard- that alone is so much fun! Make yourselves comfy with lots of pillows and sleeping bags. Gaze at the stars while sipping some wine. Easy right?
You get the chance to have that sweet romance without the hassle. Enjoy some intimate cuddles, shared stories of old times or just relish in each other’s presence in the quiet of the night. Best thing is, you only need to go outside for a perfect campout site.
Don’t have your own tent?
Build a cozy blanket fort outside using a bunch of drape sheets and chairs. And when it gets too cold outside, retreat inside your bedroom, relax on your bed, or maybe get playful and be intimate with each other.
No matter how many date nights you have, if you’re not present you won’t get the benefit it’ll give you.– Jachym Jerie
Netflix Binge Date
Dreading the weather outside?
No worries! Netflix’s got you covered.
Browse through some of the classic or even the trending movies or series on Netflix while relaxing on the couch. Pro tip? Choose one of those horror movies so you’ll have an excuse to get extra cuddly with him.
Nothing feels better than having a shoulder to lean on whenever you get scared. Or you could have a good laugh at the usual dumb decisions that the characters make in horror movies.
Cook A Dish Together Or Challenge Each Other For A Cook Off
This one is highly recommended!
You sure have heard of the saying, “A way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” So what’s a better date night idea than cooking a dish together?
Create a scrumptious meal out of the basic pantry items you have. For more excitement, you can even challenge each other for a cook off. Winner gets a special prize of course!
Remember the thrill and excitement you get when you play childhood games?
Unwind and bond with your partner with a couple of fun game night ideas. Play dominos, cards, or any of your all-time favorite board games from your childhood.
You can also chase each other around the house and kick-start that adrenaline rush and endorphins, which, by the way, increases attraction. Doing activities that make your heart race mimics the heart flutters you get when you’re in love.
Further spice things up with a Truth or Dare game, couples edition. Here’s our printable list of 100 romantic questions you can use for your next date night.
Dress Up For An Elegant & Romantic Candlelight Dinner For Two
Want to have that romantic dinner for two but you’re on a tight budget?
One of the best date night ideas for married couples is to stay at home and prepare an elegant dinner for two.
Remake the first dinner date you had. Dress up to impress. Get creative and transform your balcony or living room into one of those fancy dinner set-ups. Spread some rose petals on the floor.
Dressing up is also a good way to feel good about yourself. Unleash the goddess within you and celebrate your feminine essence. Tap into his primal desire with that gorgeous dress you’ve been hiding in your closet.
Want a quick checklist for a successful date night in?
Soft music, dim lighting, aromatic candles or essential oils and a stretch of uninterrupted time without electronics and other obligations.
Feel like your husband might be resistant to having a fancy night in?
This might be because your relationship consists of mostly unpleasant interactions between you and your man. This makes him become more distant and want to spend less time with you.
Efforts to invite him to a romantic date night won’t remedy this problem. If you find yourself in this situation, make sure to reach out for professional help so that you can address the deeper-rooted issues within your marriage so you can be cherished again.
Date Night Ideas To Reconnect With Your Spouse
We’ve all been there, haven’t we?
You tried setting up a date night but those date nights seem to lack one important element- connection.
Boost your relationship and get to seriously bond as a couple with these tried and true tips to emotionally reconnect with him.
Connection is more important than communication!– Natasha and Jachym Jerie
Take A Break From Your Screens And Just Hang Out Together
It’s frustrating to see how your husband spends more time on his laptop or phone than you. When you get the chance to talk, you end up annoyed when he’s constantly staring down on his screen rather than looking into your eyes.
You just want his undivided attention, and yet, what you get is a husband glued to his screen. Instead of demanding for his time, you can make the following requests:
Her: Honey, I really want to spend some quality time with you. I feel like it’s been ages because we’re so busy. Would you be up for that?
Him: Sure, what do you have in mind?
Her: I’d love to just have some quality time together where we get to be with each other. I really would appreciate it if we could turn off our phones for that time. I don’t want to get disturbed when I’m with you.
Look Through Old Pictures Together
A picture can paint a thousand words and unexpectedly bring back fond memories.
A simple glance at a picture you two had years ago could surprisingly bring back tons of emotions, even the passion and desire you had before. The overflowing joy and love you thought was lost can easily come rushing back to you.
So why not take a moment to just sit down and look through your old pictures together?
It can even inspire your future vacations and adventures that you want to take together. Dream about the future by revisiting those special moments in the past.
Reminisce About How You Met
While scanning through your photos together, you might stumble upon a picture you had on your first date or the first time you met. While you’re at it, you can remind yourselves of the reason why you fell in love with each other by thinking back about how you met.
We sometimes tend to get lost with the chaos around us that we forget the very reason why we fell in love. It’s surprising how easy it is for us to forget what initially connected us with our partners.
Reminiscing the day your eyes first met, the day you felt that overwhelming attraction, is a great way to stimulate not just the memories, but the emotions present at that moment.
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Slow Dance To Your Favorite Romantic Songs
You promised to be together for better or for worse but you can’t feel that sense of togetherness right now. He’s too absorbed with his life and you’re finding it hard to get even just a minute of his attention.
Set-up a slow dance for the two of you. Play your favorite romantic songs and ask him for a dance.
Nothing is more romantic than holding your hand together, with your bodies so close, while you move along with the rhythm of a passionate song.
Don’t worry if you’re a terrible dancer!
Just immerse yourself in the music and in his eyes, as you brighten up that bond of togetherness in your marriage. Bonus tip: Dress up from another era and dance the night away with some fine cocktails!
Your body talks without using words.– Jachym Jerie
Ask Each Other Questions
You’re living under the same roof, sleeping in the same bed, and almost breathing the same air. But when was the last time you and your partner had a deep conversation?
Catch up with each other by asking each other questions on your date night. Just sit together with a cup of coffee or tea, and talk about your day, what’s been on your mind, or even your future plans.
You’ll be surprised at how much you can learn about each other. Rediscover one another because no matter how good you think you know your partner, there will always be a lot more to know.
Can’t think of any conversation starters or any topics to talk about?
Don’t worry as we have here an extensive list of conversation topics for date night with husband.
Date Ideas To Rekindle Marriage
Many couples expect the fuzzy sensation to remain after being together for years. Oftentimes they find themselves in disappointment because the feelings don’t always last. The butterflies you had flown away but that doesn’t mean that the love is gone.
Reignite the intimacy by revisiting the day you promised to be together for the rest of your life using these date night ideas for married couples:
Watch Your Wedding Video
The honeymoon stage is marked by powerful feelings of desire, love, fantasy, and intimacy. Bring back those feelings by revisiting the beginning stage of your marriage- the actual day you two tied the knot.
Watch your wedding video and be sure to have your tissues ready as this can bring a lot of memories that’ll surely make you cry.
Read Your Wedding Vows Again or Write New Ones
Hearing your wedding vows can be emotional but reading it aloud brings a whole new level of emotional intimacy.
While watching your wedding video, you two can read your pledge of love again and relive the moment you promised to live a life together. Rekindling your wedding commitments is a perfect way to be reminded of the promises you had for each other.
Or better yet, you can renew your vows right on the spot by writing new ones. Reaffirm your commitment and the promises you made for each other back then. A little push like that can go a long way.
Unique Date Night Ideas For Married Couples
Stay-at-home date nights can get old after a while. That’s why we’ve created another list of unique date night ideas for married couples that can satisfy your need for more joy and excitement.
Write A Bucket List
Go beyond your monotonous everyday routine and work through a couple’s bucket list with your man. Planning a trip together or any activity you want to try as a couple helps ensure that you don’t neglect your marriage amidst your own individual goals.
And while it’s great to lay out plans for yourself, constantly checking on your goals as a couple refuels your relationship.
Why is that so?
Remember those times when you both made a conscious effort to impress one another and try new adventures together? Working through a couple’s bucket list can remind you of what it felt like when you were still at the dating stage.
Doing a bucket list, either travel or relationship goals, can ultimately get you both thinking deeply about your marriage life.
Here are some questions that can help you create a thrilling couple’s bucket list:
- What have you always wanted to do together but have not done yet?
- What would you really want to achieve as a couple?
- Where would you want to go if you had no time and money constraints?
- If you knew you’ll die in one year, what things would you want to have accomplished or experienced in that time?
- Was there something nice you’d always wanted to do for each other?
These are just some of the things you can consider. For a more adventurous bucket list, remember to remove all limits you have for yourselves. Just write down whatever that comes to your mind. Don’t second-guess!
Go On A Drive Around Town
Hop in the car and consider heading out to drive around town. Enjoy the night lights while blasting your favorite songs.
Bonus points: take a drive at sunset or take ‘country roads’ to appreciate the quiet romantic scenery. Further enjoy your car date by mixing it together with the next tip.
Have A Karaoke Night
Have you heard of carpool karaoke? Where you drive around town while singing your lungs out?
Do a carpool karaoke, couple’s edition, where you two sing together along with your favorite songs or any songs you two used to sing together before.
Not in the mood to drive around town for a karaoke night?
No worries. You can just browse through Youtube karaoke videos and enjoy singing together at the comfort of your home.
Date nights are a way to bring out the playfulness you naturally have when you first met.– Natasha Koo
Hot Date Ideas For Married Couples
Well that was a lot of date night ideas, right? We’ve got you covered with some quirky and unique date night ideas for married couples but we know you want more.
Scroll below for a couple of intimate date night ideas that can set you up for an ultimate sexy date night with him.
Have A Bath Night Together
Prepare a luxurious and sexy bath for two, complete with passionate music and candles to set the stage for a sensual date night together. Go all out with a bottle of wine and some rose petals to further take the art of seduction on a higher road.
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Treat Each Other With A Spa & Massage At Home
A spa and massage- what a great way to end the day, right?
Relax while having a seductive session with a skin-to-skin massage at home. Ask each other about your pressure preferences- a great way to practice consent in marriage and communicating what you truly want.
You’ll never go wrong with this tip as a good rubdown can lead to one intimate night with him.
You deserve a date that makes your heart flutter.
You deserve a date filled with so much laughter and intimacy that you see your man as ‘the one’ again.
We’ve laid out the guide for you. But before anything else, let us remind you of one important thing:
Date nights are intentional. This is why you and your partner should have strong commitment in making your plans a reality. You have to be both on board to really reap its benefits.
Maybe you’re thinking… ‘But my husband is always busy. He surely can’t commit his time for date nights.’
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